Comments:

Emerson Biggins - 2006-08-08 07:07:58
that's what I like about you, UB...you made me laugh and cry at the same time. Hang in there, and we'll see you soon.
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Fishy - 2006-08-08 07:18:24
Hey, thanks for still writing to all of us, hope your family can stay close in a time like this. Well done on being so brave - Fishy
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Pattypat - 2006-08-08 07:25:03
Uncle Bob - I'm keeping you and yours in my prayers.
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zoot - 2006-08-08 08:11:04
stay strong dude. Get your dad a dog if he doesn't already have one. My uncle has my aunt on his fireplace mantle along with their dog they had for half their lives, and I never thought he would stay sane after she died (my aunt) but he got a puppy and he's doing good. much love xoxoxoxoxo
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vitamin c - 2006-08-08 08:26:50
Welcome back, UB. ((Susie))
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artgnome - 2006-08-08 08:49:15
Our thoughts and prayers are with you in upstate NY. May God's strength and support be with you and your family.
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sinnamon - 2006-08-08 08:53:16
<3 your humour Amusing story from when my mother died: the mortician had this horrible, horrible stutter and a very slow drawl. So even though we were picking out Mom's casket and vault and stuff, it was hard not to laugh as he said things like "thhee-th-th-th va-va-ult is a a a required-d-d by la-la-law in North a north carolina-lina." Yes my mother was buried by Fog Leg Horn :P Your story reminded me of that. Thanks for the laugh <3 Love ya.
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Lauren - 2006-08-08 09:24:09
It's not very often that someone writes a journal entry that can make me laugh at the same time it is making tears stream down my face. I'm so glad that you're back ... And so sorry that this is what you had to come back with. God bless you and your family.
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sniff - 2006-08-08 09:35:26
take as long as you need, man. I apreciate you sharing this with us. It must be hard to have to go through all that again for a bunch of quasi-strangers. You might keep the xanax around for your next DJ gig. I bet you could really supplement your current income with a little covert distribution.
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Erika - 2006-08-08 09:47:12
Glad the card reached you safely. My grandma keeps my pop-pop on the mantle too. Every Christmas, she runs the garland over him. :)
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Ang - 2006-08-08 09:48:33
Wow. Glad you are back and hanging in there. What a tough time. Keep writing -- it's good therapy.
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Jenn - 2006-08-08 10:20:59
Glad you're hanging in...
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rivetergirl - 2006-08-08 10:26:44
Very few people could tell that story the way you did, with grace, sincerity and humanity.
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Barry - 2006-08-08 10:37:17
What she said (two rivulets of tears flowing down each side of my smile)
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erin - 2006-08-08 10:43:44
When my Grandmother died, the suited guy at the funeral home looked like a cartoon mole. I half-expected him to pull out one of those miner's hats. Beautiful story...you served your mom's memory well, with tears and laughter. I'm glad you got to say goodbye.
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Allyson - 2006-08-08 10:52:25
Xanax. That's what I should have done. Instead, at my mother's funeral, I cried uncontrollably, and failed to even notice if anybody had shown up. I was told many people were there, though.
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Poolagirl - 2006-08-08 11:24:38
Great story, dude. I can totally relate to the looking up the nose thing.
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Beth - 2006-08-08 12:01:26
Didn't realize you were back until I got the notify for this entry - glad you're here.
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MissChelle - 2006-08-08 12:23:02
Aw Uncle Bob... I'm sitting here at work, crying and laughing at the same time. Thanks for sharing that story, in the way that only you could do. I have missed your humour
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joyous - 2006-08-08 13:18:07
I wish there were words. Please have a good week.
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awittykitty - 2006-08-08 13:54:12
Ya know that zombie springing to life and gnawing your neck thing, uncle bob? That was totally the Xanax talking. Trust me. Take care.
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Jamie - 2006-08-08 13:54:24
Still praying my ass off for ya, UB.
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chocolate chaos - 2006-08-08 13:58:03
glad youre back, unc.
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Sarah - 2006-08-08 14:31:38
Glad you're back UB. I lost my mom in December, we too had her creamated and I was the last person to see her. Your story brought tears to my eyes. My thoughts will be with you over the next few weeks.
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Lori - 2006-08-08 15:34:10
Sorry for your loss Uncle Bob. And there is nothing weird about your Dad having your mom's ashes right there and talking to them. I do that with my husband's ashes almost every day and it has been over a year since he was killed. Great entry, made me weepy yet laugh at the same time. Only you could do that UB....
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Tammy - 2006-08-08 15:34:17
I am sorry for your loss. Being able to mix pure sadness and humor into one story is a gift few have mastered. You mastered it here beautifully. I am so glad that I found your site through Jane's.
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Chris - The Original Chris - 2006-08-08 15:57:19
Thanks for the notification, i know this is gonna sound dumb.....missed you. Glad to see you again (:
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Pam - 2006-08-08 16:13:59
Glad to hear that you are doing fine, UB. Keep a close eye on your dad. There are 5 states of grief; I think you skipped a few and went right for acceptance. Denial Anger Bargaining Depression Acceptance
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Snickelfritz - 2006-08-08 16:32:33
(((((((((((((((UncleBob))))))))))))))
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Kimberly - 2006-08-08 17:45:23
You're still in my thoughts and prayers. Great entry - good to see you seeing the funny side of it. When my Dad died of Lung Cancer - My sister and I went back to his house - Of course half his kitchen table was full of medications - But my sister and I couldn't help but go "shopping" - "Wow - look he's got hydrocodone and ambien - Score!! - You want to split what's left?"
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Jeremy - 2006-08-08 20:28:32
feel free to be yourself more often. you don't always have to be Uncle Bob.
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anenigma - 2006-08-08 20:57:23
Damn, I hope my mom's funeral is that good.
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witchy - 2006-08-09 08:33:57
How come Andrew didn't get any Xanax? You selfish copycat finger kisser you. That was an awesome entry. I am so glad you are back. I missed you when you were gone.
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JudyU - 2006-08-09 10:03:51
How much xanax do you have to take to say "Hey"? A friend gave me some for a long flight so I could sleep. I guess I should have take two or three eh? So glad you are back.
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FairyGodMum - 2006-08-10 05:33:12
Thanks Uncle Bob for being there. When there are so many people we'd like to hold hands with, your's is one. Uhhh and that's in a FairyGodMum's like wayyy dude.
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bluesleepy - 2006-08-11 03:02:39
Wow, what a sweet goodbye you shared with your mom. All y'all being on Xanax throughout the service... you got me chuckling there. ;o) *BIG HUGS* UB... you know we're all thinking of ya.
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Squeakzilla - 2006-08-11 09:39:36
Damn, when UB comes back, he comes back STRONG! I remember having that "fear of an awakening zombie" experience when I was a kid and my aunt died. Not only that, but the wake was in our house and my aunt was on display in the living room. I was a little tyke and someone lifted me up to give her a kiss. Let's just say, I visibly (and audibly) declined the gesture. For months after, I wouldn't play in the living room, I would walk slowly and quietly through it. Put all the "U" in UB, you care to, that's what I'm here for.
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metanoia - 2006-08-11 11:27:33
Sry about your mom. Mine died 18 years ago and I still miss her. A friend shared that he would cry in his car when he drove back and forth to work, the only time he was alone. After he shared that with me, I did the same thing. *hugs*
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Not Cindy Crawford - 2006-08-11 11:43:34
I haven't put my comment about your mother's death before today because it was a "touchy" subject for me, having lost my father just 2 weeks prior your blog entry. I offer your family my sinceres condolences. The "comic relief" part of my father's death was provided by my oldest brother and I when we decided that we would put gauze, found in a desk in the room, around his face to keep his mouth shut. We didn't really do a good job. I wasn't there when the ordelies came to take my father to the morgue of the hospital but I can just imagine their faces as they walked into the room!! LOL P.S. As for Andrew, with parents like Susie and you, I am sure he will leave his mark in this world of ours.
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Penny - 2006-08-12 12:12:21
I have a REALLY big family, so death is something that's become a social event of sorts with us. We always try to find a little bit of humor & a little bit of joy in the situation. Sometimes it's hard, but other times we find our common bonds again so easily it's like not a moment has passed since we were last together. I just hope that Susie will be able to cope with her father's illness as well as you have seemed to cope with your mother's. I think that with you by her side, she's got no worries. Take care, Uncle Bob. We're all rooting for you. And we're SO GLAD you're back! (((hug)))
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witch - 2006-08-13 15:48:15
oh, that made me cry!
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sooboo - 2006-08-13 16:45:22
I'm really sorry for you and your family. I lost my father-in-law last summer and my own father when I was 15. Your entry brought back a lot of memories (funny and sad). Stay strong!
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dweeble - 2006-08-14 03:36:32
Now, that's what I like! A poignant yet humerous tale from Uncle Bob! We just returned from a week long vacation, and there's nothing that welcomes one home like a story from Uncle Bob. (Never mind, for the moment, that my boys have an actual Uncle Bob, and that there are two local restaurants in town called "Uncle Bob", cuz you're the real thing, not those imposters.) By the way, your mom probably died because of erosion of her tumor into a branch of her pulmonary artery, and it had nothing to do with how quickly or soon, or not, she sat up in bed that morning. Thoracic surgeon guy speaking again...sorry.
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Not Cindy Crawford - 2006-08-14 12:16:16
I forgot to ask: Is there any Xanax left? ;o)
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DanjerusKurves - 2006-08-14 21:55:19
Ahhhh... UB, I am so very terribly sorry to hear of your loss. Thank you for having the strength to share your story with the blog world ... and especially for bringing both laughter and tears to your loyal readers. Welcome back, I missed you. xoxo
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Michelle - 2006-08-14 22:28:23
I'm sorry for your loss. Thanks for making me laugh and cry at the same time. Somehow God helps us through things and I know you're a believer. I'll pray for you and your family. P.S. I missed you!
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Katie - 2007-09-21 02:31:50
I used to read your blog for years, (since high school actually and it is now my last year in college) and I was so sad to see you leave...imagine my surprise when I stumble on new entries and I am a year behind :) Your story here touched me a lot; I lost my dad in January and was not allowed to see him, and it is so nice to hear that other people have taken some comfort in seeing their parents and that I am not weird for wanting to see him, just to check on the silly things we used to pick about and so forth...I am very sorry about your mother, even if I am way behind. Your entries always make me laugh, but this one made me cry at the same time.
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