Comments:

Jenn from Nebraska - 2007-03-09 17:38:27
I'm never bored by you, Uncle Bob! Look, I'm the only one still at work reading your stuff! I'm a loser
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chocolate "boom boom" chaos - 2007-03-09 18:14:29
i would think if you skipped the therapy, eventually he would start eating other foods. if hes healthy, whats the problem?? and im a loser at home with only one good leg haha
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cosmic - 2007-03-09 18:20:47
Not boring. Glad you are rethinking the therapist issue. I think she's the one with problems, not Andrew so much. I realize Andrew has some things that need to be dealt with, but eating should be pleasurable, not a chore or something to be so traumatic at such a young age. If he were undernourished or trying to eat non food items, that would be a different story, but if he's healthy, I wouln't worry right now.
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Roxcy - 2007-03-09 19:18:17
I haven't read an entry yet where you are boring, UB. I agree with Cosmic. Just remember these days in about 10 years or so when the boy is eating you out of house and home!
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mpeacock - 2007-03-09 20:33:30
Not that I've tried this one with MY picky eater, but they say (I do beleive it was Dr. Phill) that if you ONLY give them the good stuff eventually they will get hungry enough to eat it.
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Kathleen - 2007-03-09 20:57:25
So, I started reading you because of the "WEAR A SHIRT" entry regarding PMS. (If you HAVEN'T read it, hurry to the archives) Your Andrew has caught my heart. I have a 9 year old daughter. (My son will be 23 in April, ask him if I got the parenting kinks out the first time around) She makes good food choices because I only offer the best I can at the time. Fast food is not an option. Lunchables - not an option. So, my little leebling, based on what's in front of you, what looks good? If nothing, then I wait and offer healthy options again in an hour or so. Hey, if you are hungry, you will eat. period. After some consistent healthy choices are made, then offer a favorite treat for dessert. I am telling you, small bites, slow eaters don't matter. When a kid gets 'in tune' with hunger, they will automatically choose the most efficient food. The junk becomes an afterthought. TRUST ME. And if you offer juice - STOP. (Unless it's 100%, and even then in smaller quantities. Offer real fruit and a side of water instead.) ABSOLUTELY no soda, either. I'm just sayin...
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shoshana - 2007-03-10 00:17:43
Yay, Kathleen! Perfect nutrition. Thanks, U.B., for reconsidering Andrew's therapy situation. I am impressed that you read our comments so respectfully no matter what you ultimately decide. Loves ya.
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U.B. - 2007-03-10 07:37:28
And thank you all for posting your stories. It was your opinions that have turned me around and even opened up Susie's eyes a bit!
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vitamin c - 2007-03-10 12:35:51
Awwwwwww! ((group hug))!!!!!
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M - 2007-03-10 12:57:30
I have sensory integration disorder, too - and it's true, things which have no effect on other people - from the texture of pudding, to a light touch on my wrist, to the sound of a doorbell - actually, physically hurt me. Intellectually, at 25 years old, I know they mustn't really hurt, but my brain and my body perceive them as pain. Glad to hear you're rethinking the therapy. Good luck with Andrew.
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Scooter - 2007-03-10 13:47:15
On the other hand, not dealing with extreme picky eating as a child can lead to my fiance, who only eats meat and cheese and will likely leave me a widow at 40 after his massive coronary.
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Sandy - 2007-03-10 19:19:08
I personally would be thrilled if my child at meat and cheese Scooter. Hang in there UB, you are only trying to do what is best for your child. You and Susie will figure it out together. It is one of those "choose your battles" situations. I suggest you take some type of food and insist that she does what she is asking your kid to do. I bet she would baulk at the thought! Hugs!
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Talleyho - 2007-03-10 20:38:00
And then there was my best friend's son who almost died of scurvy because he refused to eat anything but hot dogs and a very few other foods...There is therapy, and then there is your present therapist using the Dr. Mengele approach. Gotta be a better way son.
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Melanie - 2007-03-11 15:11:56
I'm going to recommend an excellent book. It's "How to Get Your Kd to Eat...But Not Too Much." The basic premise it that it is the parents' job to provide healthy food and that it is the child's job to eat it. Sounds simple - but it works. The force feeding seems especially harsh to me since Andrew has some sensory problems. If something feels horrible in your mouth then you don't need to be forcing it in there. Fruits make me gag. And those asses in my life who have thought that sneaking them into my food will show me that it is all in my mind have all been cut from my life. A dentist held his hand over my mouth once to get me to stop crying when I was a kid. I puked all over him and myself before he pulled his hand away. It was over 5 years before I would let a dentist touch my mouth. About the scurvy - vitamin supplements.
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Kathy E - 2007-03-12 09:35:38
I too was forced fed as a kid, it was a horrible experience and I'll never forget it. I took a completely different approach with my daughter and she was fine with eating. I loved my parents, but why in the world they did that to me, I'll never know.
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Beth - 2007-03-12 12:33:07
Just wanted to second the book recommendation by Melanie. This book is awesome and helps me so much deal with my 3-year-old twins' picky eating. Some good advice to save your sanity and also help develop good eating habits. Like others have said - the way parents deal with food issues can have a lasting impact - good and bad. Good luck!
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DanjerusKurves - 2007-03-13 13:18:32
I hated all foods when I was a kid, especially veggies. My parents tried to force me to eat brussel sprouts even when I was literally gagging -- and they, of course, assumed I was faking it. To this day you couldn't get me to voluntarily eat a brussel sprout ... or cabbage or cauliflower. I also didn't start eating sweet corn until I was about 20, no salads until I was in my 20s, onion in my 30s, raw tomato? just the past couple of years. The very idea of force-feeding a child scares me because I'm pretty damn sure you are going to cause far more issues than you will "fix". For the record, these days I love salad, asparagus, green beans, and a few other veggies ... because nobody forced them on me. :)
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Holly from Cincinnati - 2007-03-13 14:05:37
Drop that therapist! Andrew is a little boy. The doctor says he is healthy. He will eat when he is hungry.
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Priss - 2007-03-13 17:25:51
I was once told that therapists go into that line of work because there's something wrong with THEM. How does she know for sure he has sensory problems if he hasn't had tests ordered by a trained and licensed NEUROLOGIST? Sensory issues are usually a central nervous system problem, right? That can't be corrected by abusing the child... and this bitch is abusive. Many little kids have a period in their lives where they're just picky. Like Holly says, he'll eat when he's hungry. Don't give in to what he wants. Leave the food there, wrap it up and put it in the fridge. Just let him know, consistently, that he won't get anything but what's served. He'll eat it eventually. Do that every day, without fail. Way better than cramming shit he refuses to eat down his throat. How is it that it's therapy if a person has a license for it, but if a parent does it, it's child abuse? Something to consider. He's going to hate you both if you keep taking him to this dingbat.
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Spammneggs - 2007-03-14 13:27:49
UB, Borat is some funny shit. I hope you enjoyed it as much as I did. Up to the point where I sharted, anyway. The Dallas scene is what done me in.
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heysway - 2007-03-14 15:09:54
UB My baby brother (who is now 35) ate nothing but plain spagetti or McD frenchfries until he hit...HIGH SCHOOL, he then mixed it up by adding cheese pizza. He is as healthy as a horse, and now eats more "normal" things, my mom has always said she wished she has just left well enough alone and let him eat what he wants. Just my 2 cents
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