chedderfish - 2008-02-14 09:44:56
Good work I think.
Argentum - 2008-02-14 11:23:55
Let us know when you figure out how to handle it. I know its got to be frustrating. But I think you're a good enough parent to handle it. Put another way, there are millions upon millions of worse parents than you, dude. I know, because in a prior career, I worked with some. Trust me on this one: you are a good parent. From what I've read, anyway. Good luck.
Kalli - 2008-02-14 11:33:10
You are teaching him the appropriate way to get what he wants/needs. Ask, buy. He just hasn't registered the "ask" part. IF/when you can set him up to successfully "ask" for something, get him that and a ton of praise. and a cookie. Or book on trains. or whatever is likely to increase the behavior of "asking". That's some reinforcement for you. Its figuring out how to "set him up to ask successfully" that's hard. Otherwise he'll eventually face the natural consequences of not asking. You are doing everything right, I wish you luck!!
chaos the javelina hunter - 2008-02-14 12:35:49
i agree, he needs to learn to ask for things, and then get them, so he knows that that kind of thing works. good luck, it can't be easy.....
voiceofreason - 2008-02-14 12:39:20
maybe if you and mom weren't always hooking and stealing (respectively) for the crack money, this wouldn't be an issue, bobby dear.
Fran - 2008-02-14 15:10:57
You done good, Bob. Anytime you act with your heart, it's correct. Don't worry, you'll make mistakes, life is all about learning from our mistakes. matter what kind of child we're blessed with, the decisions of parents are all the same, you know.
Kate - 2008-02-14 18:33:41
Hey Uncle Bob, I think you're doing your best to balance instilling morals and keeping your kid from hating you. It's hard, and very few people who sign up for it in the first place know what they're getting themselves into. If every kid had a parent who loved them as much as you and your wife love Andrew, there would be a lot less bad stuff going on in the world.
Kathy - 2008-02-17 22:58:38
The best thing my sister did for her stealing little children was to make them pay for the item they'd stolen and then either make them throw it in the garbage (if it was food) or make them donate it to charity. Each of her two daughters only stole once. Stinkin' kids!
JP - 2008-02-18 12:10:41
I have Asperger's, too, and have problems with doing something that's perfectly justifiable in my head then having to explain it to people who ask me about it. So, I come up with a story that sounds, to me, like a "normal" answer, but it just ends up making things worse. My problem is that I'm 30, and not 6 or however old Andrew is.
Caca - 2008-02-18 17:16:51
You need to put that boy to sleep!
Patty - 2008-02-20 03:46:44
Maybe you've done this -- I don't know because I don't read your blog as much as when I was still using Diaryland -- but talk to some parents of kids with Asperger's and see how the handle this kind of thing and everything else that comes up. It helps to talk to others who have been through the same thing.
Pam - 2008-02-20 11:28:49
UB, is there an Asperger's support group in your area? If there isn't, consider starting one!
Lance Yelvington - 2008-02-22 18:03:16
Hell, UB...why don't you start a support group for freshmen who get run over by a Pacer on a slick road while walking back to class? I know I'd sign up.

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